Within moments of waking I found my thoughts focusing on Mercedes Lackey who, through one of her characters, described what could very well be her writing method (at any time she has – one book in planning, one book in process, and one book being edited).

Recently I’ve been reading Stephen King’s “On Writing” and he shares his ideas of what has worked for him in terms of successful writing. I caught myself thinking about this as I started on my self-assigned 2,000 words for the day (that’s how many Stephen King writes). I caught myself contemplating whether this was the magic pill. If I write like Stephen King says to write, I will be successful like him.

This last thought is a bad place to be. And not just for writers, but for anyone.

What works for one person, does not necessarily work for another. Stephen King goes on to mention a large desk that he had for many years, which occupied the room to the exclusion of other things and sat in the very middle. He writes of choosing a different desk, one that resides in a corner and is no longer presumptuous or overbearing.

I caught myself patting myself on the back for having a corner desk! How silly is that?

We yearn for the magic pill or the perfect trifectate of events or steps that will guide our way to success. We believe it is there, somewhere, and we spend far too many weeks, months, years and even decades in search of it. This creature of our own imagination – it does not exist!

I was at a Heartland Coach Alliance meeting yesterday (HCA) and as part of the end of year program we went around and each spoke for one minute about what we had learned that year as a coach. I couldn’t shake the memory of reading Stephen King’s book and his remark about ideas being fossils in the ground. “Opportunities are like that,” I said, “Opportunities are all around us, we just need to dig them up.”

I went on to share the thought, which elicited many nods of agreement, that we stand in our own way far too much of the time. We limit our success by standing in the way, waiting for the miracle. My job as a coach is to teach you to step out of your own way and teach you to allow yourself success. Part of this is accomplished by reminding you that there is no magic pill or perfect trifectate of events that you need to be waiting for.

Put yourself out there and strive towards your goals. Take others advice and try it out, but don’t accept it as gospel. Don’t assume they know what is best for YOU. Only you know that!